A
recent study in Germany enabled scientists to prove that people who tend to be empathic do
not necessarily have the additional skills to understand people well at a
cognitive level.
The
study also discovered insight as to how the different networks in the brain are
orchestrated, revealing that networks crucial for empathy and cognitive
perspective do interact with one another, and in highly emotional moments
for
example when somebody talks about the death of a close person
activation
of the insula, (which forms part of the empathy-relevant network), can have an
inhibiting effect in some people on brain areas important for taking someone else's
perspective. This in turn can cause excessive empathy to impair social understanding.
Personally from
a counsellor’s perspective there is a fine balance between empathy and
cognitive understanding when entering into a client’s world and attempting to
see things from their perspective.
“Is it possible as therapists to keep our empathy under control so it doesn’t run to excess?”
I
think so... I feel a sense of duty of care to my clients to ensure my feelings
don’t run away with me in light of their situations. That seems to keep my
empathy in check and allows me to dip into it throughout the session.
After all, uncontrollable empathy can turn to sympathy which is not professional and in fact
detrimental to client progress. Although it hasn’t happened to me yet, it’s possible
that someone could just tip me over the edge with a sad story, and if I find my
emotions too much to handle, I would need to seek supervision to guide my
decision on how best to serve that client.
The
study sees cognitive understanding and empathy as two different social skills,
but the scientists proved they can affect each other and that heightened
empathy around a person’s predicament can reduce your cognitive understanding
of it.
That
is certainly something we don’t want happening in Therapy! Part of the counsellors job is
get a real understanding of what everything means to the client. The client can
sometimes do an excellent job of describing their thoughts and feelings to the
therapist, and our job is to read between the lines, and for that our cognitive
perspective ideally should not be diminished by over empathising.
Growing
up I remember getting very upset when I didn’t understand someone’s meaning. My
emotion would start to swell at the beginning of a conversation sometimes in
expectation of the fact that I wouldn’t comprehend. So I soon realised my excessive emotion
was the culprit in my diminished understanding not my intelligence.
Was
this the beginnings of me learning to control my emotion? Possibly.... Maybe
that’s why I now feel I have a good handle on my empathy in therapy, allowing
me to really listen to people.
So
as counsellors, there are many good qualities and skills we should have, but
perhaps it’s not just about simply having those qualities but...
How we use them and how we control them, after all, these are skills in themselves.
Ultimately our aim is to provide the most successful and productive sessions we possibly can for our clients.
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Source of Scientific Research
